The most important component of happiness is love

To experience true happiness requires many different things; even though money and materialism seem to be so important in our lives, they on its own cannot make a person truly happy. Good health, talent and success might also be vital distributions to ones happiness, but love, both giving and receiving, is the one most important part for me to experience happiness. Without love, all the others don’t matter. What is success, when you cannot share it with someone you love and what do you do with all the riches of the world if you are by yourself and have no one to turn to.

Love is the most important part of life and there is only one way of being loved. I am not just talking about finding a husband or wife but also about the love you might receive from your family and friends, neighbors and siblings….

To be loved means to be lovable and the only way to attract someone to love you will happen when you love yourself and develop a personality which is lovable. There is no way that you can make somebody love you, other then being yourself. If you try too hard to impress someone, it will show and if you are too occupied with your looks people will see you as shallow. I am not saying not to care about your looks, as that will get you attention, but looks is not all that matters. You need a lovable personality to keep people that love you in your life.

What do I mean by lovable personality? Well that is in the eye of the beholder… I might find someone who gives me space more lovable then someone who would be fixated on me, whilst someone else might find it very lovable… Only people that don’t pretend to be someone else and show their true nature will find someone that will love them the way they are. We all have different personalities and every one of us has some sort of lovable characteristics, we just need to find the right person to appreciate it. Once you have found love don’t let go of the things that made you lovable in the first place, keep working on your good trades to make the relationship flourish.

I have been in a relationship with a very special man for over seven years (seven year itch) and we still have to work on our good and bad sides to keep the love alive. A relationship doesn’t mean you have to quit your individuality. Your individuality was what attracted your partner in the first place. Yes we have to compromise in a relationship to make it work, but it does not mean you have to give up your beliefs and personality.

So wish me luck to overcome the seven year itch- it is not always as easy as it seems to keep the love alive, but we are constantly working on it.